...and why Black girls love Mexican guys, and Mexican girls love Irish guys, and Irish girls love German guys, and German girls love Italian guys, and Italian girls love French guys, and French girls love British guys, and British girls love Texan guys, and Texan girls love Puerto Rican guys...
*gag*
Which is all by way of saying--
they don't, so get over yourselves.
Any of these statements are attempts to quantify or explain "interracial" dating. As though interracial dating was an anomaly that needed to be explained away. Or as though it is an insult--as though every time a pale-skinned girl enters a relationship with a dark-skinned man, she is somehow turning her back on every pale-skinned male in the world.
It's all so ridiculous. When two people enter into a relationship, they're just that: two people. It's not as though each somehow embodies the entirety of their ethnicity. Perhaps statistically there are more White-male/Asian-female "interracial" couplings than there are Black-male/Asian-female or Latino-male/Asian-female couplings, but so what? What do statistics have to do with anything?
Sure, there are the legends. Supposedly all African-American men are well-endowed, and supposedly all Latino men are passionate lovers, and supposedly all "white" men are rich. But when you enter a relationship with someone, are you entering into a relationship with an ethnic legend or with an individual person? I'm sure it would matter far more to you whether
that individual was well-endowed or a passionate lover or rich than it would if his
ethnic stereotype was.
I am an advocate for
dealing with people on individual terms, not lumping them together in categories that they may or may not fit. It's the same with individual couples.
And really. Just because you know two or three girls of your ethnicity who are dating someone of a different ethnicity doesn't mean it's some sort of pandemic and you're doomed to eternal singleness. That makes about as much sense as the straight men who complain about lesbians because they say "there are no women left for me to date now," which is to say, no sense at all.
Which is to say, leave inter-ethnic dating alone and stop trying to categorize it.
Now excuse me, I have to go passionately kiss my Scottish/Irish/German/Spanish fiancee.
Comments (31)
Nothing like the Scotts and the Irish.
The thing that got on my nerves about the defense of prop 8 was the argument that they didn't want to redefine marriage. If we hadn't redefined marriage, interracial marriages wouldn't be legal. Whether the couple is black and white or guy and guy, should it really matter? They're all people. They're just people.
Most of us that are actually "color blind" don't even think to POST about such things.
It's a subconscious thing we do in our head--group the white girls and black men together, group the asian girls and white guys together, all because we see it "often". Probably 90% of asians date other asians but we don't really notice those couples when they walk down the street. The ones we notice are the 10%, those that are so called dating someone "out of the norm" example caucasions or blacks. The image of an asian girl walking down the street with a white man is tucked into our memory way deeper than the two asian couples. As you can see we are still at a time where interracial dating is not common therefore they get the most attention.
@bella_esperanza@revelife -
You just like them all :p@hopefull_soul -
because normality does not make for good conversation.I would like to play devil's advocate for a second.
"Blogging Dangerously" about race is quite an easy thing to do, I will admit. But blogging about the subject in an intelligent manner, is what makes it a bearable topic.
I tried to do so in mine, but I can't help but be me and be sarcastic or even slightly arrogant when I write.
Sure, seeing people on a one on one, case by case basis is ideal, and what we all should do,
but as long as the truth of the eyes remain and the narrow mind insists to be blind, then there will always be inequality.
@Gerald_Washington -
A pity, that. I liked your post, the sarcasm especially.I can only hope that one day narrow minds will be far less common. Sadly, with what I know of humans, it's probably rather unlikely.
An excellent post. Sometimes I really wonder about the idiotic bigoted crap that people come up with on this subject.
@Daithi - You'll just have to content yourself with the Americans.
Great post, Chris. Way to go on calling out the (racist) nonsense.
personally, I like to think that my bf (who is the same race as me) is the epic lover of legend of all our race.
:) great post
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